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This man was not my client, he did not go to a psychotherapist, but his image in my environment symbolizes many men in general. Imagine your ego image – age 40+, works six days a week, sometimes even without days off. He goes on vacation once an hour. He always gets drunk on vacation. When you ask such a man why he works so much, he answers that he has children and he wants to provide them with a good, decent future. <\/p>\n\n

And this picture looks quite decent. A man has good intentions – this is how good fathers and husbands should act. But isn’t there a flip side to all of this? Or it’s better to ask the question – what price does a man pay, living such a “correct” life.” And who suggested to him that exactly such a life is correct for a man?<\/p>\n\n

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Of course, it is easiest to turn to childhood, when someone (most likely parents) suggested that a boy should be strong, hardworking, earner and generally a stone wall. And it’s true, a man must. But no one told this boy that rest is important, that the support of loved ones is important. That you are strong, but not omnipotent. No one explained to the boy that a man’s strength is not only in how much he earns. And not in how many apartments he bought for his children in memory of himself. The strength of a man is also in the relationships he managed to build, in the emotions associated with him. <\/p>\n\n

That friend of mine, whom I mentioned at the beginning of the article, went on vacation. A classic vacation, once a year in August. As soon as he was on the shore of the sea, he began to be covered with thoughts. Thoughts were about everything in a row, and all that was clear about them was anxiety. This man’s anxiety always increased when he was on vacation or on vacation, so he usually went out drinking to not worry. And also, so as not to worry, he began to dream big and tell that he was going to buy two apartments for each child. It looks noble, but how is it really?<\/p>\n\n

Why do men work a lot – what is really behind it?<\/h2>\n\n

Outwardly, workaholism looks noble, but what does this eternal race hide? What spiritual nakedness is covered by the eternal desire to work hard? After all, notice that in this case there is no goal to live better or better. There is a manic desire to just do something, preferably all day from morning to night. To what?<\/p>\n\n

Workaholism is exactly the same addiction as alcohol (that’s why you drink on vacation). Workaholism is the same as any other addiction. From drugs or gambling. And any addiction rests on the emotional emptiness inside the person. Workaholism can silence this ringing emptiness, screaming low self-esteem, self-doubt. But this is a twisted story. Support will be much more useful for a person.<\/p>\n\n

How to support a man who works a lot?<\/h2>\n\n

How can you support a man who works a lot? Only, please, don’t say that you need to work less and love and respect him like that. That’s not how it works. The support of a man who is always trying to prove his worth to everyone around him is a friend. Ask yourself – is it possible for your man to be vulnerable next to you? Not weak – vulnerable. Can he tell you that he is tired so that you don’t hear “everyone is tired” in response. <\/p>\n\n

Very often we do not notice small details, but they are what shape relationships. Not money, not achievements, not the number of apartments. And the attitude towards a man is not formed by how many mammoths he brought home. This is important, of course, but there is another. How do you make your man understand that he is valuable and important to you just like that? That even if he does not bring a mammoth, he will be loved all the same. Can he talk to you? Say everything that makes him doubt and what he is unsure about? <\/p>\n\n

Because a real man is not one who is iron and steel. A real man is alive. At some moments he is at the top, at other times he falls. And it is important for him to know that his loved ones will be with him in all his life circumstances. Men are respected not only for how much money they have in their pockets, what they are like in sex, what heights they have reached. Men are respected for honesty and the courage to be sincere. <\/p>\n\n

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