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<\/figure>\n\n\n\nQuestion for a psychologist number 1 – why do psychologists have excess weight, psychosomatics and little money?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Why, if psychologists claim that any issue can be resolved through therapy, then why do psychologists themselves have excess weight, psychosomatics, without the desired income, if it is possible to pump up \u201cmoney thinking\u201d?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n The first question I want to analyze literally into molecules. Although, most of all this question reminds me of a Napoleon cake with its layers. So, the first thing that immediately catches my eye is that not all psychologists claim that with the help of psychotherapy you can solve any problem or any request. Psychologists are different, and they have different ways of attracting the attention of potential clients. Here I wonder why the author of the question chooses those specialists who promise the practically impossible? Why do you want to believe in such promises so much, and not choose those psychologists who do not promise a lot? What does the author hope for, choosing a specialist who can do everything? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Now about excess weight. The author’s attitude about weight is interesting – how does he (or she) consider weight to be excess? After all, it may turn out that the weight that is no longer ok for the author, may be absolutely acceptable for a psychologist (or any other person). A person may be comfortable and good with his weight. And this is a good request for therapy – why don’t I accept overweight people? The question is not what’s wrong with them, the question is what’s wrong with me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n About psychosomatics. It is a mysterious and incomprehensible thing. Incomprehensible not because it is difficult to understand this topic, but because of how our psyche deals with it. The thing is that sometimes our psychosomatic symptom is necessary for us. Yes, it sounds strange, but sometimes thanks to the psychosomatic symptom the balance of the entire system in which a person is located is maintained. And a psychologist is not a robot, he (or she) is also a person and his psyche plays the same games. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Well, and my favorite – about money and income. Here I wonder – how does the author of the question know what the desired income of the psychotherapist is? It is unlikely that this information was shared with him, and this means that the person plays projection – projectively expecting that his psychologist should have some income, but does not. In short, the person lives in illusions about other people, stubbornly not noticing himself. And here we smoothly move on to the second question) <\/p>\n\n\n\n Why are there topics that are not worked on at all, or are worked on for a while, and then come back again? A person writes – I have 2 topics that I have been working on for 15 years, but it lasts for 3 months and then everything goes back in a circle again. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n What is this – a person has been in therapy for 15 years, and there is no result. It’s a pity you don’t see the comments to the post where these questions were asked, but the author pointed out that this is 15 years of “island” therapy, that these are point 5-10 consultations with long breaks. And therapy doesn’t work like that. This is called counseling, which never gives long-term results. <\/p>\n\n\n\n What issue can’t the author of the question resolve? For example, he can’t make money. Or lose weight. In both cases, you need the will to do something. But if there is no will, but there is laziness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It is difficult to “solve” your laziness or your avoidance of responsibility through therapy. You can try, but if your laziness turns out to be stronger than the therapist (from your subconscious choice, by the way), that is, if you continue to choose not to change or do anything, then you can go to therapy just for show, of course, but it will be of no use. It’s like in “Star Wars” about the eternal struggle between light and dark, and who seems stronger, your laziness (Darth Vader) or you (Luke Skywalker) with the help of your therapist (Yoda), it is up to you to decide. Your therapist will not be able to do it for you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Another important point is the idea that a problem can be worked through once and for all. This would be possible if our life was static, but it is not. Something is happening all the time, something is changing – circumstances, people around us, we ourselves are changing. The human psyche is also not static – it is not a program that you write once and it works like code. Remember – the goal of psychotherapy is not to work through all your problems once and for all, but to teach you to live with them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n For many, going to a psychotherapist is already like doing something. Many dash their hopes against this fantasy that a psychologist will tell you something, that everything will somehow happen on its own. But in the end, you will have to earn money yourself, but with the help of therapy you can cope with shame, guilt, fear of failure, impostor syndrome, and so on. How to start doing something and get moving<\/a>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n And we have reached the most important thing – when psychotherapy “does not work”, when you go for years, but nothing changes and does not help. Then I have a question for you – what is so valuable in your life now, that you so stubbornly want to preserve and therefore resist any changes? <\/p>\n\n\n\nIs it possible to solve any problem with the help of psychotherapy?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Why are psychotherapists overweight?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Why can’t a psychotherapist cure his psychosomatics?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Why aren’t psychotherapists millionaires?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Question for a psychologist number 2: Why doesn\u2019t 15 years of psychotherapy work?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
How Avoidance of Responsibility and Laziness Interfere with the Process of Psychotherapy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
The main question of a psychologist<\/h2>\n\n\n\n